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I always got this advice when a friendship, emotional attachment, or a relationship ended. That in order for you to move one you have to block, remove, delete, and wipe every trace you have of this person. I followed through mostly but I kept bits and pieces of conversations saved for memories sake. I never looked at them until 10 years later now when I found myself sucked into thinking about how things ended and what the other person thought of me etc - and i cannot begin to describe how relieved I felt reading what I saved.
With a friendship, I saved their words on what I meant to them. Going back and reading it gave me a sigh of relief because I had started to question how much I meant to her and if our friendship really meant anything.
With a relationship, I deleted everything but saved the last fight. And I’m so glad I did. I couldn’t remember what happened and I only remembered the good memories, the laughs, the late night conversations, but how they made me feel before we ended things? All gone from my mind. Going back and reading it though was enough to help me not get stuck on them and if this ghost comes back again, I know where to go.
Anyway moral of the story - everyone grieves differently and regardless of how and why things end, know that your mind will remember what it chooses so figure out if you need “reminders” to move on and focus on your future.
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With a friendship, I saved their words on what I meant to them. Going back and reading it gave me a sigh of relief because I had started to question how much I meant to her and if our friendship really meant anything.
With a relationship, I deleted everything but saved the last fight. And I’m so glad I did. I couldn’t remember what happened and I only remembered the good memories, the laughs, the late night conversations, but how they made me feel before we ended things? All gone from my mind. Going back and reading it though was enough to help me not get stuck on them and if this ghost comes back again, I know where to go.
Anyway moral of the story - everyone grieves differently and regardless of how and why things end, know that your mind will remember what it chooses so figure out if you need “reminders” to move on and focus on your future.
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