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/u/Sensitive_Student412
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We had been together for almost three years. They moved in with me about a year ago. Things were good for a long time.
I run a small business. I started it before we met, built it from nothing over about five years, and it finally started doing well maybe two years into our relationship. My partner watched that whole process. They know what it took.
A few months ago they started bringing up the idea of being formally brought in. Not as an employee. As a co-owner. Equal split.
I said I was open to talking about it if they were going to take on real operational responsibility. They said they already contribute by supporting me emotionally and being flexible around my schedule. I said that wasnt the same thing.
It kept coming up. Each time I thought we resolved it and each time it came back bigger.
Last week they sat me down and said they had thought about it and their final position was a fifty fifty ownership stake or they didnt see a future for us. They said if I wasnt willing to build something together then I was treating them like a guest in my own life.
I asked if they were sure that was the position.
They said yes.
I said okay and told them I needed them to start looking for somewhere else to go.
They were shocked. Genuinely did not expect me to take them at their word.
They said they didnt mean it like that, they were just trying to make me understand how serious they were. I said I did understand and that was why I was responding seriously.
They have been at their sisters place for four days. I have gotten three long messages about how I threw away something real over a business disagreement.
I dont see it that way. I see it as they told me exactly what they needed and I told them exactly where I stood and neither of those things changed.
AITJ for not calling the bluff?
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I run a small business. I started it before we met, built it from nothing over about five years, and it finally started doing well maybe two years into our relationship. My partner watched that whole process. They know what it took.
A few months ago they started bringing up the idea of being formally brought in. Not as an employee. As a co-owner. Equal split.
I said I was open to talking about it if they were going to take on real operational responsibility. They said they already contribute by supporting me emotionally and being flexible around my schedule. I said that wasnt the same thing.
It kept coming up. Each time I thought we resolved it and each time it came back bigger.
Last week they sat me down and said they had thought about it and their final position was a fifty fifty ownership stake or they didnt see a future for us. They said if I wasnt willing to build something together then I was treating them like a guest in my own life.
I asked if they were sure that was the position.
They said yes.
I said okay and told them I needed them to start looking for somewhere else to go.
They were shocked. Genuinely did not expect me to take them at their word.
They said they didnt mean it like that, they were just trying to make me understand how serious they were. I said I did understand and that was why I was responding seriously.
They have been at their sisters place for four days. I have gotten three long messages about how I threw away something real over a business disagreement.
I dont see it that way. I see it as they told me exactly what they needed and I told them exactly where I stood and neither of those things changed.
AITJ for not calling the bluff?
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